Before we leave the season of Thanksgiving, let me offer a few words on the power of gratitude. Even before I could walk, I was trained by my mom and dad to say thank you. As a Brit, saying thank you comes as naturally as introducing yourself by saying sorry! It is simply the right thing to do (even if you are not especially grateful). Indeed, almost every British conversation ends with the words, “Cheers, thanks, thanks so much, really thank you very, very much…bye…and thank you. Sorry!” Brits have even taken the art of passive-aggression to new heights with the insertion of a simple word of thanks. In the U.K., ending an email with the word “thanks” is a clear signal that one is perilously close to losing one’s temper!
But what if thanksgiving were more than just socially warranted behavior or annual holiday? What if gratitude is the means by which the inner man or woman is strengthened? What if thankfulness is good for our spiritual well-being? Let me put it this way. Let’s imagine that the Town of Amesbury was surrounded by enemy forces whose desire was to wreak havoc and destruction. Let’s also imagine that there are enemy sympathizers who live and work in the town who have a view to undermining its defenses.
Now, what if you were to discover that there is a song which the enemy and their sympathizers cannot tolerate or approach? Whenever they hear it, they run the other direction. Isn’t it certain that you would want to learn this song? And after you learned it, you would sing it when you went to bed at night and when you got up in the morning. You would sing it on the way to the railway station, to the school doors, and to the coffee shop. And the more deeply embedded in your mind the song became, the more secure and fearless your life became. Biblically-speaking, that “song” is gratitude.
The apostle Paul wrote, “Therefore, as you received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in Him, rooted and built up in Him and established in the faith, just as you were taught, abounding in thanksgiving.” (Colossians 2:6-7, emphasis mine). Gratitude is an essential guardian of the soul. When we abandon it, we lay ourselves open to attack. In the absence of a thankful heart we are prone to drawing away from the love and faithfulness of God.
Paul, writing to the church in Rome, argued that the absence of gratitude creates an on-ramp to the slippery slope of doubt and fear. He wrote, “For although they knew God, they did not honor Him as God or give thanks to Him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened.” (Romans 1:21, emphasis mine). If ingratitude lays us open to confusion and doubt, gratitude positions us to take hold of God’s goodness, steadfast love, and faithfulness. Gratitude brings us into the truth that God is “on my side as my helper” (Psalm 118:7a).
Thankfulness is never about getting on God’s “good side.” Gratitude before God is truly for our benefit, and not His. In my own prayer life, I have recently attempted to give thanks to God for at least 10 things before I bring anything else to His attention. I am so struck by the profound difference that this simple practice has made. My part is just to be honest about the impact of the good things in my life — great or small. And as I compile my list, I find that two things happen. First, the list gets longer and longer. And second, my anxiety level decreases, while my faith and assurance in God’s goodness increases.